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I Love This Herb For Women And Men ~


Ah, yes… Damiana.¬† This is a leaf I love and recommend for All.¬† Damiana herb was first introduced in the USA in 1874, and has a long history of use in the folk medicine.¬† Scientifically called ‘Turnera diffusa, T. aphrodisiaca’, Damiana is known world-wide as a tonic that lifts one’s mood, enhances vitality, and is known to have aphrodisiac qualities that stimulate libido, for sexual health in general, and for increasing sex drive and sexual desire in Women and Men, including supporting sexual performance and sexual energy.

The part used is the leaf.  It is also known as a diuretic, for its hypoglycemic properties, its antibacterial properties; is widely used as a nerve tonic as it helps with nervous exhaustion so one can cope with stresses better; a mild natural antidepressant for mild depression.


Ancient Mayas and Aztecs used Damiana as a general tonic to improve health condition. When used on a regular basis, Damiana will help to improve mental stamina and mood. As a sexual tonic, it is a gentle acting remedy that can be taken safely always to enhance libido because it supports the glandular system.

It is interesting to note, however, that boosting sexual desire is not the only property of Damiana.  Native tribes also are known to use it to treat constipation and digestive problems, as well as gastric ulcers, menstrual irregularities, and bed-wetting in children and adults.  Damiana is a precious medicinal plant that I believe all can benefit from. ~

I recommend Damiana in a single herb formula, or have made sure it is a key ingredient in certain herbal formulas I recommend to patients and clients. Click the link below to obtain this exquisite herb and for more information:


Frigidity In Men And Women: Healing Fear And Pain


Newly Updated May 16, 2016.

To resist the frigidity of old age, one must combine the body, the mind, and the heart. And to keep these in parallel vigor one must exercise, study, and love. -Alan Bleasdale

Frigidity. Most who suffer with Frigidity feel they are suffering with more than just a physical problem. And many feel there is no hope for them in saving their relationships with their partners, or feeling good again about themselves. But some have figured out a way to overcome Frigidity to enjoy a loving, lush, intimate, and sensual life again.

What is Frigidity? According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary it means: the quality or state of being frigid; specifically :¬† marked or abnormal sexual indifference especially in a Woman. Note: it can also be indifference in a Man.¬† “Because of the derogatory connotations that have become associated with the term frigidity, it has been replaced in the vocabulary of sex therapists by the general term hypogyneismus, the inability of a woman to obtain sexual satisfaction under otherwise appropriate circumstances.

I have come across this issue with patients and clients time and again in my 20+ years in practice.  It is something that I find is one of the root concerns in those who suffer with reproductive system health problems.


Frigidity in Women: Unfortunately many times these women are referred to as ‘cold and distant’.¬† Frigidity in women is marked by painful intercourse usually due to vaginal dryness, and/or fear rooted in sexual trauma (possibly rape, molestation, or any other sexual episode in the woman’s life that brings her discomfort if she has not overcome her trauma and those specific¬†thoughts enter her mind when trying to be intimate). First, with the concern of vaginal dryness, it is recommended improving lubrication internally and improving skin and muscle tone.



Frigidity in Men: According to The New Yorker issue, September 28, 1929, article ‘Frigidity In Men’, it is¬†described as “… a man who does not respond¬†to any of the general advances made by the aggressive female. This type of man possesses a recessive knee and also is reticient about kissing. He shrinks from any demonstration of affection, and is considered¬†a biological ‚Äúsport‚ÄĚ. He would rather admire his women from afar and dream about them.” This term¬†of Frigidity is mostly used for women, while today it is referred to generally as impotence in men.

According to Psychology Today, ‘… frigidity in women and impotence in men,… have now been replaced with less judgmental terms. Impotence is now known as erectile dysfunction, and frigidity is now described as any of several specific problems with desire, arousal, or anxiety. For both men and women, these conditions may appear as an aversion to, and avoidance of, sexual contact with a partner. In men, there may be partial or complete failure to attain or maintain an erection, or a lack of sexual excitement and pleasure in sexual activity. In women, there may be an inability to lubricate enough to complete the sex act’.

***Please note I feel both descriptions of a Frigid Woman (as in when she is referred to as ‘cold and distant’), and a¬†Frigid Man are negative and derogatory.¬† As Medical Online’s Sex Therapy states, “Both men and women need the right conditions to respond, and often do not get them.” The right conditions to respond sexually, that is. Best, I feel,¬†let us look deeper into the emotional and physical healing that must take place for these people dealing with this sexual problem¬†so they may¬†feel the capacity to have¬†sexual intimacy again.


Fear to have sex, in both men and women, because of some physical or emotional trauma has been marked as¬†one of the major causes of Frigidity. This Fear is considered emotional pain. And this Fear¬†may also bring on depression.¬† If in turn a person is taking anti-depressants or other medications to stabilize mood, that person’s libido is almost guaranteed to suffer. If they feel they cannot be pleased or feel they cannot please their partner, it may bring about despair and an even more depressed state, and it becomes a vicious cycle.¬† Depression-related libido problems are resolved when we increase serotonin and also naturally improve libido with herbal aphrodisiacs. TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) teaches us that all the above symptoms in women are due to emotional weakness, physical weakness, weak energy flowing through the body, fear/fright, damp-heat within the body, and that the main organs of focus are the Kidneys.

The Kidneys are in charge of reproduction, growth, and the metabolic balance of water throughout the body.¬† Located in the lumbar region of the body, it is said the loins (hips, groin, lower abdomen, reproductive organs) are the residence of the kidneys, so when the kidneys are ill/diseased, symptoms may occur across the loins.¬† Fear is the emotion associated with the Kidneys. Excessive Fear hurts the Kidneys. Toning, strengthening and reinforcing the Kidneys’ energy, according to TCM will also help a person eliminate deep rooted Fear.¬† Frigidity is more than just not feeling like having sex. As we see here it is rooted in a combination of imbalances that reflect themselves in the emotional and physical.



The recommendations I’ve made below are revitalizers for sexual energy as well as effective natural treatments for the unfortunate and common sexual problem Frigidity¬†I’ve stated in this article. Herbs have a centuries-old reputation for effectiveness in working with the body toward sexual health and enhancement.¬† Use the following combination of therapies for increased circulation, heightened sexual desire, and hormonal balance. (Click on each link for detailed information on each herbal supplement.)

For both Men and Women needing emotional and physical balance, here TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) formulas:


For Women, add to Chinese Negative Yin Pack for increased sexual energy and desire the following two herbal therapies:



For Men, add to Chinese Negative Yin Pack for increased sexual stamina and vitality the following two herbal therapies:



Ladies, if you are concerned about VAGINAL DRYNESS/VAGINAL ATROPHY see my other female health article here.

* Another tip, Ladies And Gentlemen! Remember I’ve also shared times before in my posts that studies show an active sex life can make you look up to 7 to 12 years younger, count them, 7 to 12 years younger! “It’s good for you to have good sex,” says David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, whose study on the effects of sex on aging appears in his book, Secrets of the Superyoung. With that said, All Men and Women should consider it a must to get healthy sexually! Love, Be Well, Happy, Young, Healthy, Abundant, and Vibrant!


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Aromas & Scents for Sexual Enhancement



Can Aromatherapy enhance love-making…?¬†Most people know there are certain scents that cause them to¬†feel happy, sad, angry, depressed, and even scents that make them¬†feel sexually aroused. I’ve received many questions in regards to what¬†one can use for¬†a healthier, more intense sexual experience. In answer to¬†these questions, and those specific to aromatherapy, I will detail¬†here what aromatherapy is and how we can enhance our sexual¬†experiences in a holistic, healing fashion with essential oils.


Aromatic oils have been used since¬†ancient times in massages and therapeutic baths. These¬†excellent remedies used by herbalists are magnificent for depression and relieving stress. And of course, we have found they have¬†a very intriguing effect on the sexual experience. Essential oils act in plants¬†the way hormones do in us humans. Even Cleopatra is known for applying lotus and other essential oils behind her ears to attract Mark Anthony…



Scents have an effect on memory, thought, even our emotions, and studies show these effects on brain-waves also. There are specific aromatherapy oils that increase arousal and heighten love-making in both men and women. These essential oils have an affect of also increasing relaxation and alertness.

Sex enhancing oils are to be used in the following ways:

  • Massage 3-5 drops of essential oil on the bottoms of the feet, the lower back above the buttocks, and the front and side of the hips.¬† If utilizing a carrier oil, add 10-12 drops of essential oil to 1/2 oz. of carrier oil.
  • Place a few drops of essential oil on the bed sheets and¬†pillows. In this way you infuse the bedroom with the scent¬†that increases sexual desire in both a man and woman.

The following are sex enhancing oils for Women:

The following are sex enhancing oils for Men:

My favorite recommended Carrier Oil is an unscented formula that features the following combination of oils: Sunflower, Safflower, Grape seed, Olive, and Vitamin E.  An unscented formula as such is important so it does not compete with the scent of the essential oil combined with it.  In this way the healing effects on body and mind from inhaling is not disturbed.

(*NOTE: When considering utilizing essential oils, be sure they are high quality, authentic and ORGANIC. True essential oils should be free of GMOs (Genetically Modified Organisms), pesticides, toxins, etc. SureSource Guarantee is key to trusting the authenticity of an oil.¬† SureSource Guarantee is a practice that absolutely verifies essential oil authenticity back to cultivation, harvest and original distillation.¬† Why does ‘Authenticity’ matter?¬† First, essential oils applied topically are absorbed through the skin into the bloodstream almost instantly. Second, inhaling an oil’s aroma immediately passes vapors into your body and mind.¬† For these important¬†reasons, Authenticity matters and is crucial.¬† As a natural health practitioner in practice for over 22 years, authentic, high quality grade¬†herbs, supplements, and products are¬†all I recommend with confidence, with continued, successful results among patients and clients.)

Herbs and roots taken in combination with the use of essential oils have proven to be one of the best ways to bring the human body to an overall all-encompassing experience of heightened and sustained sexual response and good health.


In addition to the above oils, Women can use the following female herbal formula for sexual health, glandular and hormonal balance, increased sexual response, and heightened libido (sexual desire):

  • X-ACTION FOR WOMEN This¬†exquisite herbal combination helps facilitate blood flow to the¬†reproductive area and promotes circulation. More blood flow to the¬†reproductive area of a woman means increased response to external¬†stimuli. In other words, the woman ‘feels’ more. She¬†becomes more sensitive and can orgasm with increased ease. This formula contains¬†Maca root which provides a natural means for improving sexual desire and performance. It also is known to enhance physical energy and endurance and helps buffer the effects of stress.

Along with sex enhancing oils mentioned for gentlemen, Men can use the following herbal formula to help increase sexual vitality, sexual performance, and balance hormones, especially testosterone levels:

  • X-ACTION RELOADED This herbal formula¬†combines nutrients to support male reproductive function, sexual¬†performance and enjoyment, prostate health and cardiovascular¬†health. Ingredients in the formula work together to support optimal¬†nitric oxide levels in the body. Nitric oxide relaxes blood vessels¬†to enable optimal blood flow. Efficient blood flow is crucial for¬†healthy male sexual activity and overall vascular¬†health. Icariin, a flavonoid extracted from epimedium, may¬†selectively inhibit phosphodiesterase type V (PDE-5), an enzyme¬†that causes the male sexual response to subside. By blocking this¬†enzyme, sustained sexual activity may be promoted. Icariin also plays a¬†role in increased smooth muscle relaxation and increased blood flow¬†through its actions on cyclic guanosine monophosphate (cGMP) levels¬†and nitric oxide synthase (NOs) activity.

(Click each link above for more information.)

Love, stimulate your senses, and enjoy good health!